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| Saturday, January 07, 2006 |
| never said anything. |
i once had a friend going through a very difficult breakup. and he described it as if his arms were being pulled in opposite directions. each direction is so painful but even remaining immobile is no refuge from suffering.
sometimes friends can feel that way. torn in half between giving advice -which could be taken as meddling or simply a wrong point of view - and suffering in silence. the latter could also be taken as insensitivity or lack of consideration.
i think i've put my own support system on that same painful road. But my own stance is, if i ask for advice that's when you give it. If not, don't. And i usually do ask for advice because my friends see things differently. Not always the right one but nonetheless coming from a position of care and love. How many times have i called for emergency coffee dates and dinner meetings with friends to give them an update and hearing what they have to say about it. And then they find out that i didn't follow their advice. and learn my lesson the hard way anyways.
This happens because no one can be right all the time. especially when it comes to relationships, there really isn't some big formula or rulebook to follow. But i value their opinion because one line just might jolt me into a state of revelation. Your buds with several years worth of knowledge on YOU have gone through most of the men (or women) in your past and thus would have an idea as to how things develop. (How does that line go...fool me once shame on you, fool me twice...)Like making the same mistakes which you find it hard to distinguish due to the incurable blinders that infatuation/love brings with it.
I shudder to think of the times when i had close calls with failed relationships or even potential relationships...thank the heavens for "meddlers" and "tough love". I know that I wouldn't be this discerning of finding my match if not for these effective methods of intervention.
i never said there was anything
i never said there was anything wrong
- Never said anything by Steven Strait (from the soundtrack of Undiscovered)
lyrics still not available.
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posted by maldita @ 2:20 AM
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